You call me a loner, and a free-spirit, as if there were some danger behind such a way of living. I understand being free requires one to leave everything behind. It requires one to leave comforts like a steady income, a warm house, secure relationships. Being free requires one to challenge their fears. It doesn’t mean I am running away from the things that try to ground me, it means I trust that I will have another meal without knowing where it will come from, I will sleep in a warm home without knowing the address, I will meet new relationships that will love me.
The only danger is in believing the fears others put onto me. “I hear it’s dangerous to travel there, please don’t go.” That is when I will stop being free, when you convince me that your fears should become my own. Fear is easily spread, and what does fear do? It limits us from moving forward. We retreat from our original intent because we do not feel safe. We begin to doubt. Here is what fear sounds like:
Fear controls us in a way that does more harm than good. At one point in time fear was used to signal danger. Fear signaling to take action from a saber-toothed tiger was healthy. Our modern day saber-toothed tigers are the illusion of terrors, insecurities, criticism, judgments, and other unkind acts. Our fears communicate to us that we will fall and we will have difficulty getting back up. Even so, I encourage you to be free!
I invite you to fall without knowing where you will land. Perhaps while falling you discover that you had wings all along and you could fly so high that you reach the stars where the angels live. Only when you allow yourself to be uninhibited will you understand how truly free you are. Sure you can fall and your fear convinces you that you don’t have wings and so you do nothing because you have been told there is nothing you can do; I encourage you to ignore everything you have ever been told and flap your wings anyway! I challenge you to fly!
Orlando Zuniga, LMFT is a Licensed Psychotherapist practicing in Los Angeles and most of California. With expertise in mental health counseling, behavioral medicine, relationship counseling, executive coaching, sales training, client relationship management, and organizational-corporate development.